Friday, 26 February 2016

Choosing 'Happiness'

It's not a secret that I took a longer hiatus than planned. Over this period, life took a toll on me and I was pretty uncertain about what the future has to offer. Without boring you with the details, let's just say that the time was unkind to me and I wasn't as happy as I should be.

The word 'happiness' is quite misinterpreted.

It is often referred to the idealistic goals that the society set up for us. When asked, people often reply that they will be happy when they have a certain amount of money, property, assets, fame, friends or family and in this process, they fail to realise that you need nothing but yourself to be happy.

As cliche it sounds, you have to create happiness yourself.

When we make these assumptions that we will be happy after we achieve something, it restricts us to not enjoy the current moment because we are busy creating the ideal world that will never satisfy our greed.

One of the greatest thing that I learned during this phase was how important it is to live in the present moment, something we refer to as 'mindfulness' and how life provides us with numerous opportunities where we should make a choice considering our happiness as a factor.

We say that decision making is tough and yet we do it all the time no matter how big or small it is without even paying attention. From the choice of getting up from your bed and going to work in the morning to doing the chores in your everyday life, you do not even realise the number of if-else statements your brain executes (hehe, sorry for the geek reference).

Choosing what to wear, where to hang out or the bigger things like planning to start a family or working at your job, we have to make decisions. Sometimes we do it on our will, sometimes we let fate decide the future for us and the rest of the times, we let fear conquer us.

Fear paralyzes us and it does rightly so because we allow it to. When you tell your mind that the fear can go and find someone else, you'll end up living the life you always envisioned and that my dear friend is the greatest gift you can give to yourself.

This changed my entire perspective and I started making decisions with mindfulness, choosing decisions that will make me happy in the current moment...

...and this has made all the difference.

I want you to ask yourself what makes you happy and if you're doing a lot of it?

If not, let this be your wake-up call. 

As always, I would love to hear your views on the same :)

Related: Happiness comes in small packages

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  1. Happiness is just emotional or mental state of being positive. I personally feel positive in challenging myself more and more. Fear is either a great opportunity or a great threat so it depends on an individual what they make out fear. As per my opinion, happiness is not a matter of chance its matter of a choice. "It is not a thing to be waited for, it is a thing to be achieved.”

  2. Wow!! This is SUPERB! Agree to your words. People often forget to enjoy the happiness in everyday life. Thanks for the reminder :)

  3. It is so easy to get in a bummer mindset and to feel sorry for yourself when things aren't going your way! But it is so easy to choose happiness! You are so right!! Great post girl!
    -Olivia Miss Olivia Says

  4. Sakshi, it's good to have you back, I was thinking about you. I'm sorry life has been stressful... it can zap our joy. You're right, that we need to live in the moment as that's all we have. Take care of yourself and remember to some nice things for yourself ♡♡♡

  5. Shivam Shekhar4 March 2016 at 19:39

    Happiness is a relative term. You get a driving licence, you're happy. You pass an examination, you're happy.
    It's just that we have always neglected these small little things of joy altogether and has kept ourselves on achieving something that could make us happy. Believe me, its impossible to attain it, because there is no such thing. All we need to do is to relish every moment in life and this is how happiness will follow.

    P.S : Good to have you back! :D

  6. this is what needed to hear today... however life hasnt been kind to me either, its harder to create my own happiness when it keeps getting squelched by those i love around me.

  7. Such a wonderful post! Thank you so much for sharing.

  8. Such a wonderful post! Thank you so much for sharing.

  9. This post was so amazing and inspirational! I think you're amazing for sharing this with everyone! I agree with everything you said.
    Also, I've tagged you in a post of mine back at my blog, if you're interested.
    All the best, Elsie A xx

  10. Hi :)
    Great post, thank you for sharing this.
    Clem x


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